{Free Prime} My Gender Workbook: How to Become a Real Man, a Real Woman, the Real You, or Something Else EntirelyAuthor Kate Bornstein – Mariahilff.de

Q GENDER Options Male or FemaleThis question on demographic surveys has irritated me for as long as I can remember Who cares Why do you need to know And shouldn t there beoptions How about, Other Reluctantly I choose female That is who I am biologically and what I look like But my personality rarely matches the social expectations associated with that biology and appearance As a young child, I was very verbally advanced and never shy about expressing myself I was also conside Q GENDER Options Male or FemaleThis question on demographic surveys has irritated me for as long as I can remember Who cares Why do you need to know And shouldn t there beoptions How about, Other Reluctantly I choose female That is who I am biologically and what I look like But my personality rarely matches the social expectations associated with that biology and appearance As a young child, I was very verbally advanced and never shy about expressing myself I was also considerably independent so much that my mother often sadly commented that I didn t make her feel needed It doesn t take long once you go out into the world and start interacting with society to learn that these traits are not considered lady like My interests and disinterests tend to fall short of those expectations as well All of this has just intensified as I ve gotten older.I enjoy girlying it up, but when you look like that, then speak and behave as I do, you are bound to find a lack of acceptance This issue has caused me great problems in employment and personal relationships In dating men, those gender expectations inevitably rear their ugly heads as they expect me to eventually start acting like a real girl And female friendships are often difficult to form because I don t have the common grounds on which to properly bond To extrapolate this issue, I have never wanted children and nothingthan the failure to reproduce disqualifies you from being, a real woman I was told this would change when I got older but, my stance has just strengthened with time.I have never wanted to be a man, felt I should have been born a man, or that I was a man trapped in a woman s body But the problem is, nearly everything about who I am as a person, does not from a socially defined perspective match this gender, female I enjoyed this book, and if you are reading this review, I imagine you will too Because the author approaches gender as fluid and with many possibilities, there will likely be parts that you take and leave Not everything resonated with me personally, but much did Many times, I paused reading to either write on the exercises or simply reflect on thoughts about some of my own experiences It asks a lot of questions and shares a lot of stories It is, at the very least, a good starting point for this discussion I finished reading this book feeling good and less alone on this subject of no gender, which is how Iaccurately feel about myself Really not into it to be honest, it bugged me because of the tone and some of the underlying assumptions in the questionnaire In the end I only read to the end of the questionnaire, and skimmed through the rest and kept being met with stuff that just bugged me The book just wasn t for me I guess I have thought so extensively and stressfully and analytically about gender, and had my fair share of gender angst also, so for as much as I could find good theory I was also overwhelmed with unde Really not into it to be honest, it bugged me because of the tone and some of the underlying assumptions in the questionnaire In the end I only read to the end of the questionnaire, and skimmed through the rest and kept being met with stuff that just bugged me The book just wasn t for me I guess I have thought so extensively and stressfully and analytically about gender, and had my fair share of gender angst also, so for as much as I could find good theory I was also overwhelmed with underlying theory that I could argue big holes into, and the tone was too camp for me to engage with Some people will get a hell of a lot out of this book though, I know it, and so I have donated my copy to the library because they didn t have a copy in stock A fairly charming tour through the world of no gender This book is certainly not a complete or scholarly guide to ideas about gender, instead representing a single point of view told in a casual, magazine like fashion, but it s rather pleasant point of view Kate Bornstein, as she describes throughout the book, was born male and eventually transitioned to female and created an identity for herself as a transgender lesbian Later one, her partner Catherine became David, isolating her from the le A fairly charming tour through the world of no gender This book is certainly not a complete or scholarly guide to ideas about gender, instead representing a single point of view told in a casual, magazine like fashion, but it s rather pleasant point of view Kate Bornstein, as she describes throughout the book, was born male and eventually transitioned to female and created an identity for herself as a transgender lesbian Later one, her partner Catherine became David, isolating her from the lesbian community and destroying her established identity She eventually came to realize that essentialist identities don t really work, especially when they exist in binaries She writes this book to help guide readers who have questioned their status as real men or real women into a place of comfort in experimenting with newer,flexible gender identities.Bornstein s primary idea is that of a gender pyramid She says that since gender essentially means category, there are a multiplicity of genders, tied to the ways we and society identify herself She claims that not only are boy, man, and ftm distinct genders, but also white collar man, blue collar man, and so forth, with each subculture and each stratum of society having different ideas of what a real man would be These genders are structured in a pyramid, with the identity of straight, cis , middle class white Protestant man on top, and lesser identities on lower and lower levels of the pyramid, wielding less power in society She claims that our expressed gender is a form of communication, and that we all make subtle gender shifts every day to establish a role with each person we interact with By that logic, she says, we could all be described as transgendered This is where I have qualms with the book in suggesting that we are all transgendered, she tends to trivialize the issues of those people who truly can t be comfortable with themselves without passing as the opposite gender, and considering that the transgendered are a ridiculously oppressed minority as is, one shouldn t write things that could be misappropriated to further suppress them.Despite some flaws, I really enjoyed Bornstein s personality and the format of this book We needworks on gender deconstruction that aren t in utterly dreary academic formats Kind of the worst excesses of 90s rad queer liberal in disguise culture The absolute low point besides a protracted and explicit account of Bornstein s online BDSM conversations is a quiz she has where she shows you how privileged or not privileged you are essentially Bornstein asserts here that bpq people and BDSM enthusiasts areoppressed than lesbian or gay people Also she says that people with penises are automatically privileged for having penises not true and reflecting interna Kind of the worst excesses of 90s rad queer liberal in disguise culture The absolute low point besides a protracted and explicit account of Bornstein s online BDSM conversations is a quiz she has where she shows you how privileged or not privileged you are essentially Bornstein asserts here that bpq people and BDSM enthusiasts areoppressed than lesbian or gay people Also she says that people with penises are automatically privileged for having penises not true and reflecting internalized transmisogyny on her part She assigns people with penises 250 privilege points ugh but assigns white people only 10 privilege points for being white To Bornstein, gender is a fun game to play with Interestingly, at one point she includes a little quote from a queer woman of colour who notes that it is impossible for her to play with gender because of racist misogyny If only Bornstein actually listened I oscillated between 3 and 4 stars just because this book is definitely full of some of the harmful, liberal queer theory that just doesn t reach the heart of gender sexuality oppression I can t help but flinch when I read the words heterosexual lesbian and I just can t get behind that as anything but harmful That being said, this book absolutely helped me develop insights into the nature of gender and also brought me a lot closer to understanding the purpose and arguments of queer theory B I oscillated between 3 and 4 stars just because this book is definitely full of some of the harmful, liberal queer theory that just doesn t reach the heart of gender sexuality oppression I can t help but flinch when I read the words heterosexual lesbian and I just can t get behind that as anything but harmful That being said, this book absolutely helped me develop insights into the nature of gender and also brought me a lot closer to understanding the purpose and arguments of queer theory Bornstein s formula for gender as power identity desire is phenomenal and hir observation that gender does not exist, therefore there are infinite genders is what gave me some revelations about the way I view gender nihilism as a whole.tl dr good book, some great points, you WILL have to suffer through the unironic use of the term sapiosexual This is so accessible for people who have very limited knowledge of gender dynamics as well as what being genderqueer really means This was one of the first books I purchased in my college career and it helped to open my eyes I don t know that I recommend it for the seasoned gender studies student, but for someone exploring themselves and others this is a great, and humorous way to do so. This is a great book for someone exploring their gender or trying to understand gender I would definitely recommend it for teens.One thing, though, I kind of think this book and Bornstein s other books create and support the narrative that cisgender folks use to justify their appropriation of trans identities This really sucks and pretty much drives me crazy and sucks cause I do actually love Kate Bornstein I just really hate the way that trans people s bodies and lives get used as a this exa This is a great book for someone exploring their gender or trying to understand gender I would definitely recommend it for teens.One thing, though, I kind of think this book and Bornstein s other books create and support the narrative that cisgender folks use to justify their appropriation of trans identities This really sucks and pretty much drives me crazy and sucks cause I do actually love Kate Bornstein I just really hate the way that trans people s bodies and lives get used as a this example for cis folks to learn from and I think we pretty much get sold out in the process I don t think this is Bornstein s intention and I still think she has some great things to say that can help some people understand and accept themselves This was the first gender related book I ever read, when I was about 18 and had absolutely no consciousness of anything outside the gender binary It changed my life forever and it remains one of the most important books in my life I re read it every couple of years just to make sure it s still a part of me, and I get something new out of it every time It s also a COMPLETELY different book from the updated My New Gender Workbook by the same author, and I highly recommend seeking out the orig This was the first gender related book I ever read, when I was about 18 and had absolutely no consciousness of anything outside the gender binary It changed my life forever and it remains one of the most important books in my life I re read it every couple of years just to make sure it s still a part of me, and I get something new out of it every time It s also a COMPLETELY different book from the updated My New Gender Workbook by the same author, and I highly recommend seeking out the original as it is full of insight and information that did not get included in the update Even if you are 100% secure in your gender identity, this book will offer you new ways to think about gender and the world in which genders exist Easily one of my top 10 books of all time Kate Bornstein brings theory down to Earth and provides a practical guide to living with or without a gender The workbook includes quizzes and exercises that determine how much of a man or woman you are, and gives you the tools to reach whatever point you desire on the gender continuum If you don t think you are transgendered when you sit down to read this book, you will be by the time you finish it Was a while ago that I read this, but it was very interesting at the time There was a lot of quite clear information and thought provoking material It s one of the few books about Genderqueer and Trans issues that presents a viable middle ground.