{Download ePUB} Stranger at the Gate: To Be Gay and Christian in AmericaAuthor Mel White – Mariahilff.de

Until Christmans Eve , Mel White was regarded by the leaders of the religious right as one of their most talented and productive supporters He penned the speeches of Ollie North He was a ghostwriter for Jerry Falwell, worked with Jim Bakker, flew in Pat Robertson s private jet, walked sandy beaches with Billy Graham What these men didn t know was that Mel White evangelical minister, committed Christian, family man was gay In this remarkable book, Mel White details his twenty five years of being counseled, exorcised, electric shocked, prayed for, and nearly driven to suicide because his church said homosexuality was wrong But his salvation to be openly gay and Christian is than a unique coming out story It is a chilling expos that goes right into the secret meetings and hidden agendas of the religious right Told by an eyewitness and sure to anger those Mel White once knew best, Stranger at the Gate is a warning about where the politics of hate may lead America a brave book by a good man whose words can make us richer in spirit and much wiser too


10 thoughts on “Stranger at the Gate: To Be Gay and Christian in America

  1. Mimi Lindborg Jove Mimi Lindborg Jove says:

    For any Christian who struggles with the issue of homosexuality especially if he she wonders if people are born gay, or choose to be gay this book will help Mel White grew up in a Strict Baptist home and knew he was different from a very young age He fought it every way he knew how prayer, confession, good deeds, penance, and electro shock treatment His final fight was his long term marriage His ex wife writes a moving forward in the book and they are today close friends As someone w For any Christian who struggles with the issue of homosexuality especially if he she wonders if people are born gay, or choose to be gay this book will help Mel White grew up in a Strict Baptist home and knew he was different from a very young age He fought it every way he knew how prayer, confession, good deeds, penance, and electro shock treatment His final fight was his long term marriage His ex wife writes a moving forward in the book and they are today close friends As someone who is close to many, many gay people I think I attract them LOL who are Christians, this book is liberating and validating For straight people who do not understand any of it, this book will teach compassion One cannot read this heartbreaking story and wonder about nature or nurture.Years ago my mother had a dear friend who was like a son to her She led the search committee that brought this talented young man to our church as the Director of Music in Orlando, FL She had been an Elder at the church for 30 years He was well loved by the congregants He was also gay This fact had been disclosed during the hiring process, but at the time he promised only that it wouldn t interfere with the mission of directing music at the church He further promised to never do anything that would embarrass the church He was hired He had been in a long term relationship by then, and several years after he had come to the church he and his partner took a vacation to California where they had a commitment ceremony He came back wearing a ring Now many of the choir members particularly the older members had not picked up on the fact that he was gay They loved him and were constantly trying to fix him up with their daughters, granddaughters, nieces, etc He decided that wearing a ring would be a subtle clue to these matchmakers that he was not available However, he decision to wear that wedding ring did not sit well with some of theconservative and influential members of the church He was fired No severance No notice No nothing My mom was furious and left the church When she died 7 years later, April 21, 2005 he played at her request music for her memorial service at the Methodist Church across the street Two weeks ago, May 2011 the Presbyterian Church voted that the denomination could ordain homosexuals as clergy Too late for our old choir director.but I m sure my mom is cheering in heaven My mom used to buy this book in bulk to hand out to troubled, confused, gay Christians AND troubled, confused, straight Christians She was a 60 something, divorced, white, straight, republican, conservative GAY RIGHTS ACTIVIST I was so proud of her She KNEW that the God she believed in loved Gay children of God as much a he loved her and she made it her mission to teach others Today she would be proud of the Presbyterian Church that caused her and her son , the Gay Choir Director, so much pain I m not sure that the local church is on board with the decision of the denominationbut they are hopefully on the right track


  2. L.A. Witt L.A. Witt says:

    I read this book in two sittings It samazing And heartbreaking And should be required reading for anyone who s ever had to struggle with reconciling religion homosexuality, regardless of where you stand on the issue It s an excruciatingly honest account of someone who tried desperately to live as a straight man, but realized he couldn t change this aspect of himself Also, massive kudos to the guy s now ex wife for being mature, loving and just generally amazing through the multi decade I read this book in two sittings It samazing And heartbreaking And should be required reading for anyone who s ever had to struggle with reconciling religion homosexuality, regardless of where you stand on the issue It s an excruciatingly honest account of someone who tried desperately to live as a straight man, but realized he couldn t change this aspect of himself Also, massive kudos to the guy s now ex wife for being mature, loving and just generally amazing through the multi decade ordeal.Just an awesome book


  3. Maegan Roper Maegan Roper says:

    I wasn t quite sure how I felt about his view on the subject of homosexulaity Christianity It definately was eye opening to learn the difficulties that most proclaimed Christians endure when discovering that they re attracted to the same sex, then trying to evaluate what that means for them spiritually I do have a great deal of respect for the author and his boldness to share his story If you re struggling with this subject, no matter what your sexual orienation, I encourage you to deeply I wasn t quite sure how I felt about his view on the subject of homosexulaity Christianity It definately was eye opening to learn the difficulties that most proclaimed Christians endure when discovering that they re attracted to the same sex, then trying to evaluate what that means for them spiritually I do have a great deal of respect for the author and his boldness to share his story If you re struggling with this subject, no matter what your sexual orienation, I encourage you to deeply search God s Word and seek His wisdom in developing your outlook, before taking someone else s word for solid truth


  4. Kate Kate says:

    Mel White has done amazing things for the LGBT community when it comes to faith justice This book and his involvement in the MCC sort of started it all for him He has now moved into the territory of civil disobedience with the aim of achieving equal rights for the LGBT community by founding Soulforce I have nothing but respect for him and his work.


  5. Tim April Tim April says:

    This book is one of the ways Holly and I learned a lot and is one of the reasons our marriage is stronger now It really opened our eyes to the reality that God creates us Straight, Gay, Bi, or Trans and that we can be the men women that He created us to be and still love God and be loved by God and spend an eternity with our Lord and Savior.


  6. Lydia Sue Lydia Sue says:

    I wish I read this earlier in my life I could have spared my queer friends and self so much pain from the homophobia I was raised in It is ridiculous that this book came out in 1994 and every church did not immediately change to gay affirming doctrine I think Mel makes an important connection between homophobic churches and the suffering and death of queer people Its well past time for the Church to own up the the pain they have caused the LGBTQIA community and change its ways I feel lucky I wish I read this earlier in my life I could have spared my queer friends and self so much pain from the homophobia I was raised in It is ridiculous that this book came out in 1994 and every church did not immediately change to gay affirming doctrine I think Mel makes an important connection between homophobic churches and the suffering and death of queer people Its well past time for the Church to own up the the pain they have caused the LGBTQIA community and change its ways I feel lucky to have come out at aexcepting time in secular culture and angry at how slowly the churches have moved toward queer affirming doctrine Its ridiculous that even though we are 54 years apart in age I related a lot to Mel s experience growing up gay and christian in america I am so thankful to Mel and other queer Christians who stories have saved me years of pain and hiding I am so thankful for the encouragement to embrace who God has created me to be and to support others as they do the same


  7. Hilary Mak Hilary Mak says:

    Compelling and impacting story of a right wing evangelical Christian who eventually embraces his sexual orientation This book is quite old now but the issues are still so real Whatever one thinks on the subject why is it so hard for some to show grace


  8. Ben Ben says:

    A very important book chronicling the life of a devout Christian who did everything he could to pray away the gay, but it just didn t work dammit because the whole notion of changing one s sexual orientation is as ridiculous as forcing a leftie to become right handed The driver behind this foolish quest is the rhetoric of the religious right, doing what they do best profiteering by reinforcing deeply held prejudices with selected bible quotes, gross exaggerations and outright lies about t A very important book chronicling the life of a devout Christian who did everything he could to pray away the gay, but it just didn t work dammit because the whole notion of changing one s sexual orientation is as ridiculous as forcing a leftie to become right handed The driver behind this foolish quest is the rhetoric of the religious right, doing what they do best profiteering by reinforcing deeply held prejudices with selected bible quotes, gross exaggerations and outright lies about the dangers posed by the gay agenda There is a price to be paid for such hatemongering thousands of LGBT youth are drowning in a sea of self hatred, silence, isolation and shame because they have been told that their automatic feelings and desires are sinful and loathsome Many others who refuse to stay in the closet become victims of discrimination and violence On the one hand, things have improved greatly for the LGBT community in the 20 years since this book was written hell, gay marriage is legal now But the voices of right wing fundamentalists are louder and angrier than ever, particularly when you add Twitter and the blogosphere into the mix We need courageous voices like that of Mel White to counter this hate and bigotry uttered in Christ s name


  9. Dave Swavely Dave Swavely says:

    I read this book recently as a part of a thoroughgoing attempt to understand the experience of Christians who identify themselves as gay, so I can be a better pastor and friend to people like that I m reading two books by men who believe that God made them gay and that lifestyle is compatible with Christianity this one and Torn by Justin Lee and two books by men who have always had same sex attraction but don t believe they should act on it Washed and Waiting by Wesley Hill and Out of a Far I read this book recently as a part of a thoroughgoing attempt to understand the experience of Christians who identify themselves as gay, so I can be a better pastor and friend to people like that I m reading two books by men who believe that God made them gay and that lifestyle is compatible with Christianity this one and Torn by Justin Lee and two books by men who have always had same sex attraction but don t believe they should act on it Washed and Waiting by Wesley Hill and Out of a Far Country by Christopher Yuen I found Mel White s book to be very interesting, for some reasons he intended and some he didn t, and gave it three stars because it did well what it was intended to do tell his story and explain why he thinks Christianity and homosexuality are compatible But I only gave him three stars because I thought some of his interpretations of Scripture were in the category of what my seminary professors called exegetical gymnastics


  10. Jonathan Jonathan says:

    Mel White has quite the life story A former ghost writer for the likes of Jerry Falwell and other conservative Christian honchos, he was married with two children and then came out as a gay man when in his 40s This account starts with his childhood as it should and works up from there to his activism in the present He is a good writer, but unfortunately this memoir sometimes gets bogged down in self involvement He really didn t need to delineate all of his relational sexual exploits for th Mel White has quite the life story A former ghost writer for the likes of Jerry Falwell and other conservative Christian honchos, he was married with two children and then came out as a gay man when in his 40s This account starts with his childhood as it should and works up from there to his activism in the present He is a good writer, but unfortunately this memoir sometimes gets bogged down in self involvement He really didn t need to delineate all of his relational sexual exploits for the reader to understand that his marriage was in peril and his mind was a mess Written in 1993, his info seems dated sometimes, but the personal stories are heartrending Here s hoping that his story has at least catalyzed conversations among family, friends, and fellow churchgoers across the nation The subject matter is so often under rug swept