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Dan Savage s nationally syndicated sex advice column, Savage Love, enrages and excites than four million people each week In The Kid, Savage tells a no holds barred, high energy story of an ordinary American couple who wants to have a baby Except that in this case the couple happens to be Dan and his boyfriend That fact, in the face of a society enormously uneasy with gay adoption, makes for an edgy, entertaining, and illuminating read When Dan and his boyfriend are finally presented with an infant badly in need of parenting, they find themselves caught up in a drama that extends well beyond the confines of their immediate world A story about confronting homophobia, falling in love, getting older, and getting a little bit smarter, The Kid is a book about the very human desire to have a family


10 thoughts on “The Kid: (What Happened After My Boyfriend and I Decided to Go Get Pregnant) an Adoption Story

  1. Glenn Sumi Glenn Sumi says:

    Pass the cigars, and make all the dirty cigar jokes you want Dan Savage, North America s favourite alt sex columnist, has become a dad In The Kid, Savage details his decision to adopt a child with Terry, his boyfriend of less than two years But the road to same sex parenthood isn t smooth, littered with fundy Christians, alcohol drinking potential moms and complicated adoption laws.At the start, Savage, never one to waffle, isn t sure how to become a dad Is adoption the route, or should he Pass the cigars, and make all the dirty cigar jokes you want Dan Savage, North America s favourite alt sex columnist, has become a dad In The Kid, Savage details his decision to adopt a child with Terry, his boyfriend of less than two years But the road to same sex parenthood isn t smooth, littered with fundy Christians, alcohol drinking potential moms and complicated adoption laws.At the start, Savage, never one to waffle, isn t sure how to become a dad Is adoption the route, or should he masturbate into a cup for one of his in his own words indecisive lesbian friends And are he and Terry, who still have hissy fits over Bjork, willing to trade in a future of gay DINK dom Double Income, No Kids for dirty diapers Applying his signature no bull, genital warts n all advice to his own life, Savage comments on everything from gays in the military and group sex to whether or not to circumsize a baby male how, he ponders, will it taste to future lovers .As in his columns, Savage is subversive and informative, as well as read aloud to your friends funny But who could have predicted that, in the book s final chapters, Mr Cynical Sexpert would induce tears with a beautifully written account of a mother giving up her child to two baseball cap wearing men Despite its tough and scrappy title, The Kid is a mature and moving book about family, fatherhood, faggotry his word and fertility Adopt it yourself


  2. unknown unknown says:

    Dan Savage brings the same frank, occasionally filthy voice familiar from his popular sex advice column and podcasts to his first book, published about a decade ago Unfortunately, he also brings along his tendency to get sidetracked with political rants and his penchant for beating the same points into the ground over and over.I really enjoyed the majority of this book, which tells the story of Dan and his boyfriend trying to adopt a child, the whole nerve wracking process from researching thei Dan Savage brings the same frank, occasionally filthy voice familiar from his popular sex advice column and podcasts to his first book, published about a decade ago Unfortunately, he also brings along his tendency to get sidetracked with political rants and his penchant for beating the same points into the ground over and over.I really enjoyed the majority of this book, which tells the story of Dan and his boyfriend trying to adopt a child, the whole nerve wracking process from researching their legal options to musing over inseminating a lesbian couple to the agonizing wait for a birthparent to choose them to take her child Dan is a really funny guy, and parts of this book will make you laugh pretty hard, including his example of what not to write in your letter to all the mothers out there looking to choose parents for their babiesWe live in a cramped apartment filled with dangerous and sharp edged tchotchkes perched high atop unstable tables purchased at an Ikea seconds saleParts of this book will also make you a little sad though it s not really a depressing story, Dan and his boyfriend have some hard choices to make when they learn that the introverted street kid who has chosen them to raise her child drank during much of her pregnancy.This book might also annoy you, because Dan takes the opportunity to climb onto his soapbox a little too often, especially in the first 60 pages or so Instead of telling his personal story, he goes on for pages and pages about the additional hurdles faced by homosexual parents looking to adopt or marry These rants, which might be relevant but didn t really need to go on for pages and pages, making the same point over and over, are full of righteous anger and vitriol and aren t very fun to read You get the idea the book wasn t edited very rigorously and Dan started off not really knowing where he was going with it he admits as much in a chapter about how he got a book deal and spent the advance before he knew what he was going to write about, which gave him a reason to finally pull the trigger on the long gestating adoption dream.If the final product is uneven, Dan s story of bring a new life into the world, so to speak, is heartfelt and occasionally moving and almost as good as reading his advice to people with centaur fetishes, pegging fantasies, and problems with threesome logistics


  3. Ed Ed says:

    As a huge supporter of gay adoption gay rights in general, this book instantly appealed Honestly, I enjoy that feeling of smugness I get from reading something I agree with.I think a book like this should be required reading for all the crazy fundies out there If Dan seems preachy sometimes it s only because we live in a society which refuses to let go of the whole gay issue their sexuality must be near the forefront of the minds of gays and lesbians practically all of the time All he wan As a huge supporter of gay adoption gay rights in general, this book instantly appealed Honestly, I enjoy that feeling of smugness I get from reading something I agree with.I think a book like this should be required reading for all the crazy fundies out there If Dan seems preachy sometimes it s only because we live in a society which refuses to let go of the whole gay issue their sexuality must be near the forefront of the minds of gays and lesbians practically all of the time All he wants is to live his life and start a family with the man he loves, without worrying about discrimination and bigotry.Dan and Terry s fears that no one would choose them to adopt their baby were touching I know for a fact that if I ever got pregnant I d make sure it was a gay couple adopting my child This book made me feel that evenstrongly.This was an easy read, and very funny in parts You ll find yourself wanting to pull quotes from it and throw them at your homophobic friends, should you have any


  4. Mel Mel says:

    So, I am childfree I don t have children, I don t want children, and I have a lot of general disdain for the prevalence of bad parenting and people who stumble into parenting as an inevitable next step rather than a reasoned choice I am frustrated that we are making new people at such a rapid rate when there are so many who need homes already I like kids, and I like parents I just get exasperated, though, by a lot of things that have to do with kids and parents.Which is all to say that for m So, I am childfree I don t have children, I don t want children, and I have a lot of general disdain for the prevalence of bad parenting and people who stumble into parenting as an inevitable next step rather than a reasoned choice I am frustrated that we are making new people at such a rapid rate when there are so many who need homes already I like kids, and I like parents I just get exasperated, though, by a lot of things that have to do with kids and parents.Which is all to say that for me to have read this book about a couple adopting a newborn baby had all kinds of potential to make me roll my eyes, but the fact that it did not, not even once, is a testament to the talents of Mr Savage


  5. Faith Reidenbach Faith Reidenbach says:

    My book group read this book I imagine it would be a 5 star book for most couples who want to adopt, especially LGBT couples and couples planning an open adoption To me, it was less compelling, but I enjoyed it and learned from it.True to form, Savage the sexual advice columnist is savagely honest For example, he admits that he wants a healthy infant, not damaged goods he acknowledges how offensive that term is But much of his honesty is hilarious, as with his description of the deep pr My book group read this book I imagine it would be a 5 star book for most couples who want to adopt, especially LGBT couples and couples planning an open adoption To me, it was less compelling, but I enjoyed it and learned from it.True to form, Savage the sexual advice columnist is savagely honest For example, he admits that he wants a healthy infant, not damaged goods he acknowledges how offensive that term is But much of his honesty is hilarious, as with his description of the deep process he had to wade through when discussing with a lesbian couple whether the 3 of them wanted to create a bio kid I liked that although Savage is writing partly for straight people, he doesn t shy away from explicit references to gay sex.The book meanders, as if Savage thought it might be his only chance to say certain things He includes a provocative but out of place account of how the stress of coming out debilitated him physically at age 14 His musing about possible homophobia at an adoption seminar ends in an analysis of the politics of gay reparation therapy It s good original analysis, though, so I m not complaining.When it comes time to write about the birth mother and the social workers who helped with the adoption, Savage becomesguarded Free ranging memoir turns to adoption primer Savage sensibly exercises restraint in writing about the relative strangers who will continue to influence his relationship with his son even after the documents are signed Even though I m a lesbian, or maybe especially because I m a lesbian, I have certain stereotypes about gay men, and it s been hard for me to understand why 2 men want to adopt a baby Savage squarely confronts this bias and also the ick factor He busts me further by paraphrasing the attitudes expressed by a local gay activist idiot in Seattle, exactly what I d been wrestling with for 65 pages Gay parents should be men in their forties, together at least eight years, monogamous, professional, irreproachable, and unassailable With the religious right making an issue of gay adoptions, gay dads were going to be under a lot of scrutiny He felt it was important that they be as unthreatening to straight people as possible OK I get it now This is like, we don t ban drag queens from pride parades for being outrageous We help them clamber up on their floats.Told ya I learned from this book


  6. Ana Ana says:

    This was such a sweet and funny, and a little sad, but mostly really, really happy adoption story I really like the writing style and I appreciated how frank the author is about his experience.


  7. Liza Liza says:

    I ve been on an adoption memoir binge lately, but this is the first memoir I ve read about open adoption, and I adored it It s very Dan Savage, so if you re a reader listener of Savage Love you can anticipate the tone and how at times you ll be thinking, Dan You can t say that how offensive It s incredibly honest and vulnerable, which is a side of Savage I m not as familiar with It s obvious that he and Terry considered every aspect the adoption would have on them, the kid, the birth par I ve been on an adoption memoir binge lately, but this is the first memoir I ve read about open adoption, and I adored it It s very Dan Savage, so if you re a reader listener of Savage Love you can anticipate the tone and how at times you ll be thinking, Dan You can t say that how offensive It s incredibly honest and vulnerable, which is a side of Savage I m not as familiar with It s obvious that he and Terry considered every aspect the adoption would have on them, the kid, the birth parents, and the rest of their family and friends as well as the societal implications I really enjoyed that it focused so much on the adoption process the paperwork, invasive questions testing, and back and forth with the agency and birth mother I d recommend this to anyone curious going through the adoption process as it will make you laugh, cry, and hopefully understandabout open adoption


  8. Castalia Castalia says:

    I suppose I should say I mostly enjoyed this book despite it being written by Dan Savage I ve never been a fan of his style, his perpetuation of many gay male stereotypes, and his philosophy that cheating is A OK and possibly inevitable I liked seeing the adoption process unfolding, and the ending was quite nice, but most of the characters weren t very likable for me I think this book could have benefited from a good editor.ETA I should add that in the time since I ve read this book, Dan S I suppose I should say I mostly enjoyed this book despite it being written by Dan Savage I ve never been a fan of his style, his perpetuation of many gay male stereotypes, and his philosophy that cheating is A OK and possibly inevitable I liked seeing the adoption process unfolding, and the ending was quite nice, but most of the characters weren t very likable for me I think this book could have benefited from a good editor.ETA I should add that in the time since I ve read this book, Dan Savage has said so many misogynistic, transphobic, biphobic, and generally asinine things that I can understand why his attitude in this book bugged me Not a fan


  9. Hank Stuever Hank Stuever says:

    When Dan wrote this, a gay male couple adopting a baby with relative ease and almost no wait pure fate was like earning your PhD in Homo Studies I was in awe of them then, and I m in awe now still D.J s all grows up Great, funny book about a momentous process Made it all seem modern and okay for so many people.


  10. MrsAgnello MrsAgnello says:

    Enjoyable but not life changing An informative, entertaining, and worthwhile read.